When it comes to parenting (and trying to be a good one!) I look for advice and inspiration wherever I can find it. Although I generally trust my instincts in terms of doing what’s best for my kids, there’s often that nagging doubt – am I doing it right?!
Like any parent, I want to give my children the best possible start in life. I want them to be happy. I hope that they’ll grow up to be confident and independent. Probably above all else, I want for them to be kind and compassionate.
But as the old adage goes, kids don’t come with a manual, so how can we as parents feel truly confident in our decisions (without over-analyzing every single action that we take)?
I rounded up this selection of fantastic TED Talks on parenting (although aren’t they all wonderful??!) that I found to be useful and quite inspiring. I hope that you enjoy them too!
5 brilliant TED talks on parenting
#1 How to raise successful kids – without over-parenting
I’m sure that lot’s of you have heard the term “helicopter parenting”. In this fab video, Julie Lythcott-Haims talks about the harm that micromanaging and hyper-scheduling can actually do to our children’s sense of self. And that instead we should focus first and foremost on unconditional love (and chores!).
# 2 Five dangerous things you should let your kids do
It’s so tempting to wrap our little ones in cotton wool… after all it’s our natural instinct to want to protect them from perceived dangers out there. However, Gever Tully makes the good point that our children could actually be missing out on valuable opportunities to learn and engage with the world.
#3 Teach girls bravery, not perfection
As a mum to two young daughters, this one definitely speaks to me. Our girls are capable of so much if only we’d empower them! Love this.
#4 For parents, happiness is a very high bar
Yes! We put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect parents. And so does society. It’s a huge burden to feel responsible for someone else’s happiness, so perhaps we should be a little kinder to ourselves.
#5 Let’s talk parenting taboos
And finally, for some light relief, in this talk, the founders of Babble discuss some of the ugly truths of parenting and things we’re not supposed to talk about. Very funny and totally relatable!
After watching these, the common theme seems to be that we should honestly try to take a deep breath and relax a little more!
Our parents didn’t have all of the online resources that we do, nor did they have the abundance of parenting books to tell us “do this” or “don’t do that”. We grew up in a time that was more simple and less busy, with fewer expectations placed upon us. And I think that in general we turned out just fine! So personally, this is what I’m going to try to keep in mind whenever I start to doubt myself.
Parents: you got this!